When thinking about the next two essential traits, KIND and THOUGHTFUL, I realized that they are synonyms to one another. We have all heard this description – “He is so kind and thoughtful!” – So it made sense to discuss these traits in the same post. The definition of both speaks of having the gentle nature and desire to help others, being considerate of others and bringing happiness to others.
A different statement often made about kindness is that the presence of it in a person is a sign of their weakness. The person that believes that is probably an abuser so be wary when you hear that from someone.
If you are seeking a mate, you want “kind and thoughtful” because that supports “for better and for worse, in sickness and in health” and leads to the caring required for a committed lifelong relationship. It is cool when he brings you flowers, chocolates, gifts on your birthday and other holidays. It is great when he opens all of the doors for you, runs out in the rain to get the car, and physically carries all the heavy items. However, in the case of illness, is he willing/capable of bringing you food, pain medicine, and change your adult diaper, if necessary? These are the real tests of kind and thoughtful.
QUESTION(s): How would you determine if a prospective mate is kind and thoughtful?
