Recently, I went out to lunch with a friend and coworker. When I got into her car, there were four wigs in it. One on her head and three lying in a pile on the front passenger seat. My friend quickly grabbed the wigs and tossed them on the backseat. I got in the car and looked at her. I guess my look said it all because before I could speak my thoughts, she told me, “Girl, I know.” It was clear it was time for some self-evaluation.
I asked her what the heck was going on in her life that she was riding around with wigs in the front seat of her car. She told me how busy her life had been in recent months and how she would choose a hairdo to put on while driving to the office. All I could say was “Girl, slow your roll.”
Now, for those who may not understand that statement, “roll” or “rolling” is an informal description (slang) that describes the movement of a person through their daily tasks, chores, etc. My SisterGirlfriends and I use this term all of the time. When we say to each other “slow your roll”, it is sufficient to gently admonish one another to stop and take care of ourselves.
There are times when life gets busy, and then there are times when a person is flat out overwhelmed.
Here are some indicators that you’ve been zombified:
- You are dressing in your car while driving to your destination.
- You are warned and choose to skip car maintenance tasks until your vehicle stops working.
- You are eating out daily because you don’t have time to compile a grocery list and shop for food to stock your kitchen.
- You are losing your purse, keys, glasses, wallet…something…every other day.
- You are not managing your communication channels (voicemail box is full, don’t check email for weeks, missed calls).
- You arrive home and realize you should be at another destination.
- You are overly involved in managing other “grown folks” business instead of your own.
- You schedule vacation, but you take your laptop so you can log in to work/office.
Now, you may have to plan a few days of downtime just to regroup so you can think about slowing down but it will be worth it. Once you get rested up, here are some tips to kick off and get you on the right track.
Tips for “Slowing Your Roll”
- Get organized. Make use of your smartphone with the apps to help you with making notes, tracking tasks, and keeping schedules/calendars.
- Plan your errand route, so you are not driving all over the city. If you have to go to the brick and mortar locations for shopping, banking, laundry cleaners, etc., use the locations close to your office so you can manage it on a lunch break or en route to/from the office.
- Spread errands out during the week and strive to keep weekends free for downtime or pleasurable activities.
- Acknowledge you can’t do everything yourself and delegate or pay for housework/lawn care.
- When you schedule downtime, stick with it. Plan something fun to do or just relax at a spa. You need to place yourself first in your schedule because no one else will.
- Take a periodic vacation at least for one week a year. Stepping away from your daily life and doing something entirely different is very refreshing.
- Learn to say NO to anything that will drain your time and personal energy. Engage in the lives of others appropriately but not to your detriment.
The most important fact to remember is that TIME is the most valuable and irreplaceable resource…not money. Spend some money to slow your roll and free up your life, so you will have TIME to enjoy it.