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One Woman Remembers The Million Man March on the 20th Anniversary

October 10, 2015 By Elaine Gray

MillionMan-2Twenty years ago, I was blessed with the opportunity to be in Washington, D.C. during the time of the Million Man March. My being in that place at that time was not intentional as it was for a business trip and not for the March. At that time, I thought it was a coincidence but now I believe it was a part of my life’s journey to be there in that moment because it became a validating experience to a future aspect for my life.

In the days immediately following the 1995 Million Man March, on Oct. 21, 1995, I shared my experience and feelings on the computer bulletin board named Prodigy in the Black Experience topic section. Prodigy was a precursor to the Internet and all of the social media platforms we enjoy today. The message subject was “To My Brothers” and the topic was the “Million Man March.” I realize now that the post I wrote on Prodigy was actually my first blog post. Even though that post was limited to only the Prodigy users, I received many positive responses from men who had attended the march telling me how moved they were by my words and their intent to share the message to other men in their communities.

In the time since the first Million Man March, an entire generation of young brothers have reached adulthood and another generation has been born. I want to share again my thoughts and feelings of witnessing one of those incredible moments of the African-American experience.

Here is the original post from 10/21/1995

TO MY BROTHERS OF THE MILLION MAN MARCH
I’m from Houston and due to my work I was in the DC area Oct. 14 -20, 1995. This business trip was planned in January, 1995, long before I knew the date of the Million Man March. So, when I heard about the March and the date, I was ecstatic. I promised my sister and girlfriends that I would give them a first-hand account of the atmosphere in DC. We were mindful that it was your day and did not have a problem with that doctrine. It was time for you to bond and unite…..to open your hearts and really share with one another. We, sisters, have always had each other. Since from the times when the slave masters sold our children, there has been sisterhood. Now, it was time for a rejuvenation of your brotherhood.
I decided to talk to every brother I encountered from the plane ride to the evening before the March. I met my brothers from Boston, San Diego, San Francisco, LA, Dallas, Houston, Chicago, Gary, Harlem, Brooklyn, Paris, London, Tennessee, Detroit, Florida, New Orleans, Delaware, North Carolina, South Carolina, and Seattle. I met you on the plane, on the Metro (subway), in hotel lobbies, restaurants, at the rally, and on the Mall the day before the March. I told you my name and asked yours. I asked you one question, “Why did you come to the March?”
Every one of you opened your hearts to me. Your answer was atonement, unity and brotherhood. You told me it was bigger than the controversy surrounding Minister Farrahkan and other leaders. You told me it was about God, you, and unity. You told me you wanted to make history and show the world the “realness” of the African-American man. You even said to me, “For you my sister. I’m here for you to ask your forgiveness for my treatment of you.” You extended an invitation for my participation in the March and begged me not to feel excluded. I assured you it was okay but declined because I felt it was your day. These were the things I heard from you, my brothers, not the media and I thank God for that experience.
So, I sat on the Mall the day before the March and watched you, eavesdropping on your conversations, chuckling at your excitement and animation………..I felt much joy. There was love, peace, harmony, enthusiasm, understanding, and truth amongst you. You were beautiful, beautiful, my brothers. There were other unknown sisters watching and we joined together in our smiles as we watched. We whispered about your majesty……….how there is no other man on the planet like you. You were a wonderful garden of powerful, warm, brown-hued flowers. We saw you as you saw yourselves – with renewed vision – and we said how we loved you. Sister to Brother. One brother in a group nearby turned and saw us. He rushed over to apologize for an unsavory word spoken. We had not heard it but the brother was concerned about offending us. This is the respect you must nurture always for your sisters, my brothers.
There were perhaps 100,000 of you on the Mall that day. My thoughts compared you to thousands of beautiful lamps………beautiful lamps that had been covered with the dark dust of your experiences with racism in America. But, now, through your communion, you were wiping off that dust from your brother. Each one of you did it for another so that your light grew brighter and brighter. I thought of my brothers still enroute to DC from the four corners of our country. I knew upon their arrival you would wipe away their dust, too. I knew your lights would stun the world on Oct. 16, 1995 and through God’s blessing it did. One million plus lights, united, cannot be ignored.
Thank you, my brothers. Thank you for obeying God’s call. Keep close to your heart that obedience is greater than sacrifice. Keep close to your heart that only God can change the hearts and minds of men and women. Your hearts are free, now. I am proud of you. Remember your pledges, honor your sisters, honor your families, and God will heal our communities.

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Filed Under: Cultural, History Tagged With: 20th Anniversary Million Man March, Million Man March

BLOGALICIOUS WEEKEND – Building Our Own Empires in Baltimore

September 21, 2015 By Elaine Gray

IMG_2712Last weekend, I communed with one of my blogging tribes at the Blogalicious Weekend in Baltimore, Maryland.    The theme for the conference was BUILD YOUR OWN EMPIRE and we all were excited for weeks before the conference on the promise of the conference offerings.   The speakers and session leaders delivered all that we expected and so much more in sharing information that would help each blogger present to take their blogging business to the next level.    We all departed the conference with a tremendous amount on our “to-do” lists for implementation once we returned home.

This was my second Blogalicious Conference and it validated the commitment I made last year to attend each year.  I met some dynamic and brilliant multi-cultural women who have built “empires” with surprising innovation as bloggers.    There were several opportunities to share and collaborate at this conference and I left there with some genuine contacts to continue sharing with throughout the year.

This was my first visit to Baltimore and I know I shall return because I did not get a chance to visit any of the historical sites there.   I wanted to visit the Fort McHenry National Monument and Historic Shrine.  This was where the Battle of Baltimore was fought in September 1814 which was the inspiration for Francis Scott Key to write “The Star Spangled Banner” – our national anthem.   As a writer, I wanted to visit the site of such an inspiration but there was not enough time.   So, I must return.  I did eat the wonderful Maryland crab cakes and I must admit that none others can compare.   I also had a crab soup that was so scrumptious that it is worth a trip back just to have another bowl of it.

One of the memorable and validating moments for me occurred when a woman sat next to me in one of the sessions.   She was actually one of the assistants of one of the VIP speakers.   However, she had been bitten by the “blogging” bug and was attending some sessions to learn more about it.    She told me that before coming to the conference she did not understand exactly what bloggers really did and how could a business be developed from blogging.   Now, due to the conference, she was full of knowledge and excitement because she realized “Bloggers are REAL!”

Yes, we are!

 

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Filed Under: Blog News Tagged With: Blogalicious, blogging

Greta Grypp – Report #7

September 11, 2015 By Elaine Gray

SuperChgWomanI am still here in this plateau period.   It feels like I am in a pit of quicksand. Greta Grypp is standing on the sideline waiting for me to struggle my way out of it.   Of course, she is standing there tapping her booted foot holding the scale in her arms.   Well, I’ll get out as soon as I can.

My focus these past several weeks has been to address the muscle-skeletal issues that I have experienced recently which has halted all of my exercise activities.  My therapy at my chiropractor has really helped and I was 80% better until I had a setback on Labor Day weekend.   In evaluating root causes for my muscle-skeletal issues, one of my discoveries was that I needed to replace my mattress because it was way too old.

I went to my local mattress store to begin my search.   I soon realize that I did not really know how to select a mattress so I consulted with a sales person.  I stretched out on a few for 10-15 mins to get a “feel” for the firmness.    My old mattress was medium-firm with a pillowtop so I wanted that feel for my new selection.  Finally, I decided to go with a high-end mattress with additional features for complete nightly relaxation.   It was delivered to me the very next day.

I slept on it the first night and woke up to lower back pain.   I slept on it the second night and woke up with worse pain than the day before.   On the third night, I got up after only 1 hour on the mattress and went to my guest bedroom to sleep.   Needless to say, I am returning the high-end mattress and resuming my search for a comfortable one.

I guess the moral is just because something is deemed “high-end, multi-featured” doesn’t mean it is better than the old “tried and true” version.  This entire experience has taught me the value of sleeping on the right type of mattress for your body.   Hopefully, I’ll get that figured out soon so I can get healed and back to exercising.

If you have any tips on selecting a mattress, please share them.

 

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Filed Under: Greta Grypp, Health and Fitness Tagged With: back pain, Exercising, Sleeping Pattern

Best Things in Life #15 – Language and Cultural Exchange

September 9, 2015 By Elaine Gray

Imagine.   Your sister-girlfriend has a job assignment in Rome for the next 2 years.   You decide to go and pay her a visit for 3 weeks and explore Rome.   She throws a party to introduce you to all of her newfound friends and co-workers.    Across the crowded room you spot someone smiling at you that looks like this:

 

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He is standing with your sister-girlfriend and her new man.  They start to walk over to you.   You become excited……. all over.   When they reach you and start the introductions you realize that you and Mr. Everything-Italian-Men-Are-Suppose-to-Be do not speak the same language!   OMG!    What is a hot and bothered woman to do?

Girlfriend, RUN to the next language class or grab a self-study language program (Rosetta Stone, Pimsleur will do) and get to it as soon as possible!

A similar situation happened in my personal life and I learned how to speak Spanish sufficiently in 3 months so that I could begin to know someone who became very special to me.   We both learned each other’s language so that we could communicate better and learned about each other’s culture.    This has led to my meeting other persons of the same culture to form other close friendships in my life.   When I have traveled to countries where Spanish is the primary language, I have been able to communicate with ease.   The experience really enriched my life.

I know as Americans we tend to think English is spoken everywhere and to learn to speak another language is optional.    Some of us even have a low opinion of persons who speak our language with an accent even though they may speak 2 -3 other languages.   Yet, when I have traveled abroad and spoke the native language with my accent, it was clear to me that my attempt was appreciated by the native people.   We need to change our views on speaking more than one language and be patient with those who speak our language as their second language.

If you have ever studied one of the Latin-based languages, you will recognize that English is a tough language to learn.    Also, you will know why they call the Latin-based languages the “Romance” languages because the way they phrase is so beautiful ….. especially when they are talking about LOVE.

So take the plunge.   Study a foreign language.  Learn a cultural dance.   Share a cultural meal.    Be prepared for the “Hola”, “Bonjour”, or “Ciao” that might walk across the room into your life.     Don’t allow cultural differences and language barriers to limit what could be a wonderful experience in your life.

****About the photo:   My photographer sister-girlfriend, Veronica Owens, went on a photo shoot journey across Italy and sent me my gift request of a photo of a handsome Italian man.

QUESTION(s)

How do you feel about learning another language?

Do you think it would be beneficial to your life?

 

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Filed Under: Best Things In Life, Relationships, Travel

Tribute to the American Worker on Labor Day

September 7, 2015 By Elaine Gray

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Labor Day is usually the last remnant of the summer vacation.   We either have our last cookout on the patio, go shopping to catch the end-of-summer sale, or head to the beach for that last dip in the ocean before the Fall/Winter season.   However, we all should take a moment to appreciate the meaning of the holiday.

Becoming a federal holiday in 1894, the first Monday of September is the day that was chosen to observe the social and economic contributions of the American worker to our country and to the world.   These contributions were numerous and life changing.  All you have to do is look around in your own city to get a glimpse of the ingenuity of the American worker.

Here are just a few of those amazing contributions in my city – the Houston/Galveston area:

  • the Astrodome – the world’s first domed stadium and 8th wonder of the modern world
  • NASA Mission Control – helping to put the first man (an American) on the moon
  • Galveston Seawall – built to protect that portion of the Gulf Coast after the 1900 Hurricane that killed 8,000 persons which is still considered one of the worst natural disasters in U.S. history.
  • Houston Ship Channel – a 100+ year-old “man-made’ deep water seaport which has made Houston one of the busiest seaports in the U.S. It is still considered a feat of civil engineering to this day.

I know that one of the key ingredients of the American worker is the “we can” attitude.   When there is a problem, a need, and/or an opportunity to reach beyond limits the American worker will show up.  We should all take a moment to honor and embrace that trait on Labor Day.

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Happy Labor Day, my fellow Americans!

 

Questions(s):

Can you share what marvels exist in your city from the efforts of the American worker?

 

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Filed Under: Cultural, Holiday Season Tagged With: American Workers, Labor Day

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