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New Year, New You…Be Intentional

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Happy New Year 2022

I wonder how many of you are in my boat.  

I thought I would have created a “new” me last year, but so much stuff got in the way.

I’m not talking about a physical makeover.

I’m talking about a mental takeover.

Even though we thought it would be different, in 2021, we were all still dealing with the COVID pandemic and its variations.

All I did was wait and hope it would all end.

 I wanted everything to go back to normal. 

I spent 2021 just focusing on maintaining my sanity while missing my active social life, visiting with family and friends, and eating out at my favorite restaurants. 

Now, we’re in 2022.    Will it be more of the same?  

I’ve accepted that there’s no going back to the “2019” normal. 

I’ve accepted I need to adapt to the “new” 2022 normal. 

I’ve accepted our new reality is evolving as we live it.

The bottom line is…there’s a different paradigm living with a pandemic.

I have my moments where I want to do a “full-face” makeup, put on my “after 5” glamour, and go to a ballet, a Broadway show, or an opera.

I have my moments where I want to call my SisterGirlfriends and head south to the Galveston seawall to hang out for Sunday Brunch at the Hotel Galvez.

I have my moments where I want to head off to one of my writing retreats with a group of my creative writing pals.

And, I have too many moments where I want to jump on a cruise ship or a plane to jet off to some exotic international destination.

But I can’t.  Because mentally, I’m not ready.

And, to get ready, to evolve into a new “me,” I need to be intentional.

I need to regroup my internal emotions since I can’t control society’s external factors.

I can only be intentional in how I cope with those external factors.

The focus needs to be on spiritual growth and relational growth because, at my phase in life, these are the things most important to help me.

So, let’s not wait and hope in 2022.

Let’s be intentional in pushing forward and adapting to our new, inevitable reality.

QUESTION: How will you be intentional in 2022?

One Woman Embracing Evolution

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Last month, I had a birthday and reached a milestone age.

It’s an age that causes one to reflect upon it in the months before you reach it, and then you are awed when you wake up on that day to claim it.

It’s a Blessing to reach this age in good health (which means I can reverse the few issues I have) and with a sound mind (which means I can still laugh at myself).

Since that morning, I’ve thought about my life journey to this point.

I counted how many women I’ve been and how many more I will be before I transcend from this life.

I laughed out loud alone in my home at some of my antics.

I sat in the silence of my home and wept at some memories.

I reminisced about the beautiful places I’ve visited and their impact on my worldview.

I pondered the choices I made, the resulting consequences, and what I would redo differently.

I gave thanks to God for the people I’ve loved and the ones who have loved me.

Then I celebrated and embraced this new evolutionary stage that I’ve reached through Grace.

I think I’ve made it to the point where I can share some wisdom from my journey with others to help them navigate this maze called LIFE.

After all, this is not a dress rehearsal. We have one chance to live LIFE to the fullest.

Since 2017, everyday life has interrupted my blogging life, but now I’m ready to share my insight, ponderings, and daydreams again.

So, please stay tuned for future posts where I’ll share what I’ve learned just by EVOLVING.

On Being Resolute

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A New Day Dawning

Sometimes life throws you a curveball that will reveal your strengths and weaknesses to you. 

Since 2017, I’ve been hit by some curveballs that have changed the trajectory of the remainder of my life. These changes are not bad or negative, but they are unexpected ones. I’m having to “roll with the punches” and deal with the emotions that come with the realization that I am not in control.

So, what have I learned about me?

Some of my lessons were revealed through comments from my dear SisterGirlfriends during the travails of the last three years.  

 One told me she believed I was a “super-woman.”  

Another one told me that she found me “unbreakable.” 

The one comment that humbled me was when my friend, who is battling a severe health issue, told me she found her strength by watching me.  

When I combine their comments and reflect on the journey of my entire life, there is one word that sums it up.  

 I am resolute.

The definition for resolute is BOLD, STEADY, RESOLVED. 

The synonyms for resolute are bent (on or upon), bound, decisive, determined, do-or-die, firm, hell-bent (on or upon), intent, out, purposeful, resolved, set, single-minded.

If these words define my character, then this “resoluteness” was forged through pain, grief, joy, tears, laughter, prayers, and all that illustrate the human experience.

It was formed on establishing a goal and “keeping my eyes on the prize” until I got there when things got foggy.  

It was founded on the belief that if I fail, then I must get back up and move forward.

It was reinforced through faith that God, the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit would be with me through whatever journey was before me.

Today, some friends are going through some pain and sadness.   

It is hard in our society and our personal lives right now.  

Some of us have experienced life-altering changes. 

Embrace each new day.

You will survive these troubling times.

Be resolute.

Over Here in Overwhelm

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There is an old saying that goes something like “What won’t kill you will make you strong.”  It is true.    However, what they don’t tell you is you have to go to a place and through a process to get to that strength.   It AIN’T easy.   You can’t skip over it.   You will need an arsenal of spiritual and emotional tools to help you because it will bring you to your knees.   I call this place OVERWHELM.

Overwhelm is a place I rediscovered when the flood waters of Hurricane Harvey breached my home on 8/28/17 and rose to 6-feet destroying everything I owned.    Overwhelm is a place I was forced to settle into when my dearly loved cousin-sistergirlfriend in Dallas died suddenly on 12/11/18, and I became the executor of her estate.   Overwhelm is the place that challenges me to determine should I give in to despair or lace up for the good fight to overcome these temporary obstacles.

I’ve been told, “Girl, you are holding up great.”   I’ve been told, “Girl, I don’t know how you are dealing with all of this.”    I can tell you that out of survival necessity I’ve formulated a coping strategy.  This strategy consists of two actions – recognition and formulation.   I recognize when I am struggling, and I formulate an immediate action plan to work through it.

Here are some symptoms one can experience in the land of Overwhelm:

  • Anxiety
  • Sleeplessness
  • Emotional eating
  • Lack of appetite
  • Lack of Focus
  • Intolerance for others
  • Numbness in spirit and emotions
  • Physical Response
    • Hair Loss
    • Rashes / Hives
    • Dehydration
    • Nausea

Some of these symptoms may be temporary, but some can come and remain with you.   The most important thing you can do is give attention to yourself and what you are feeling.

Here are my recommendations to combat these symptoms:

  • Exercise – try to move daily, a 30-minute walk is all you need if you don’t exercise regularly.
  • Keep a routine – even if partially because you will have additional tasks for a short period.
  • Express your feelings – talk to your “sounding boards” (friends, family, etc.) but no whining and self-pity parties.
  • Compartmentalize tasks so you can move forward. It is better to move forward even if it is at a slower pace.    Try to plan only 1-2 weeks out.
  • Make lists and don’t feel guilty about it. Utilize simple tools – like the NOTES application on your smartphone – so you don’t add to your feelings of overwhelm by trying to learn a new app.
  • Prepare to do some emotional eating because some of us will do it. Find healthy snacks and food to “crunch” out the anger and “smooth” the sadness.
  • Know your limits and express them. Just say “NO” and, if necessary, “H*LL, NO!”
  • Take a break / a change of scenery to step away from the overwhelming tasks for a bit. It will help you rejuvenate and regroup so you can continue onward.

I’ve chosen the good fight.   I’ve been down on my knees praying.   There is no timetable, and I’ve accepted I’m going to be here for a bit.   I’ve decided to progress onward to acquire that strength on the other side because I have faith it is there waiting for me.