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NaBloPoMo #4– The One Thing I Wish I Could Change About Me Is…….

November 6, 2013 By Elaine Gray

NaBloPoMo November 2013Women Having Coffee
I am a person that performs an annual self-evaluation usually around my birthday.   Normally, I review my “things-to-improve” list from the year before and attempt to give myself an objective status.    I must admit that there are some items that have remained on that list.    When I consider why these items remain I can relate them to one personality trait that is persistent in my life and the root cause.   The one thing I wish I could change.  I am a perfectionist.

This trait has positive and negative aspects.   The positive aspects of a high level of persistence and meticulous attention to detail have allowed me to overcome insurmountable obstacles in my life and obtain skills that make it possible to enjoy the life that I have now.     However, the negative aspects of procrastination, self-deprecation, and the “all-or-nothing” attitude are also a part of my life when I cannot reach one of my goals.   This behavior manifest into the symptoms of writer’s block, unhealthy eating habits, and sedentary lifestyle which causes a vicious cycle that is hard to stop.

At the worst case, perfectionism can cause anxiety, eating disorders, depression, and low self-esteem.

It has taken me years to understand the personality trait within me and accept that I cannot change it.   However, since I am cognizant, I am proactive about self-monitoring and avoiding negative thinking.   I am improving on my eating habits, increasing my physical activity, and using transcendental meditation techniques to maintain a balanced productive lifestyle.

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Filed Under: Health and Fitness, Self-Evaluation, Uncategorized Tagged With: anxiety, depression, Eating Disorders, perfectionism, procrastination, self-evaluation

Mood and Food – A Toxic Combination

July 21, 2013 By Elaine Gray

Women Having CoffeeHave you ever arrived home tensed/stressed and crunched through an entire row of crackers/cookies or munched to the bottom of a bag of chips?
Have you ever been in a blue mood and the only thing that lifted your spirits was a large bowl of creamy Dulce de Leche or Homemade Vanilla ice cream?
We all have been there and we all have done that!
In a session I had with an “eating management consultant” – (yes, they do exist), I was informed that anger was the driving force for munching/crunching through those crackers/cookies/chips and loneliness/affairs of the heart was the driving emotion to scooping up that luscious bowl of ice cream. Sometimes we feel much better after these episodes even though we may be confused at our sudden compulsive behavior. This behavior is termed “emotional eating” as we are using food to alter our mood.
Determining Emotional Eating
Some of us eat to feel safe and secure. Some of us consider food as our friend. Some of us eat to reward ourselves. Some of us even feel out-of-control just being around food. Some reasons for emotional eating can be negative and some can be positive but if you are eating for any reason other than satisfying a natural hunger, you are an emotional eater.
Emotional eating differs from our normal hunger feelings in that it is usually a specific craving response to a trigger and is only satisfied by a “comfort” food. These “comfort” foods can vary from fatty/sugar-laden foods that give a quick lift to the spirit OR foods with specific textures, taste, and smells. Sometimes indulging in these foods become a mesmerizing experience and we overeat until we are uncomfortable… Afterwards, we may have feelings of guilt about the overeating/bingeing and the unhealthy cycle starts over again.
Combating Emotional Eating
STEP 1 – The first step in the battle against emotional eating is to identify your triggers. Some of these triggers are:
1. Stress
2. Avoidance of Emotions
3. Boredom
4. Learned behaviors – food as a reward
5. Socializing with family/friends:

STEP 2 – The next step is to find another alternative to dealing with your “emotions” other than food. Here is a list of alternatives to consider:

1. Call a supportive family member/friend.
2. Listen to some music
3. Take a bubble bath
4. Become engrossed in a hobby

STEP 3 – One of the most important things you can do when reaching for that bowl of your favorite ice cream or tearing open that bag of chips is just to WAIT. Take a moment, grab a sheet of paper and just write down what you are feeling. Read it, consider it, and just wait. You may find that the craving will past and you will be able to resist.

STEP 4 – The step I  consider the most crucial is to just let the feelings flow. Cry if you need to, shout if you need to, rest if you need to – but don’t try to stop what you are feeling. Let your soul be your guide in these moments.

STEP 5 – Adopt a long-term plan of combating emotional eating by choosing a healthy lifestyle. Here are some tips to consider:

1. Get sufficient amount of sleep – 8 hours is recommended
2. Daily exercise – find a fun physical activity that will keep you motivated
3. Relax – consider meditation or just sit quiet for about 20 minutes each day and clear your mind
4. Foster quality relationships – those that bring positive energy to your life

Emotional eating is an easy response to adopt because we all have to feel emotions. It is a part of the human experience. But, if we realize that we can’t control everything and are cognizant of what we are feeling / why we are feeling it then we can avoid falling into this behavior.

QUESTIONS:

1. Have you ever indulged in emotional eating?
2. If so, what are your triggers?
3. Have you tried to battle emotional eating?
4. If so, were you successful? Please share your experience.

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Filed Under: Health and Fitness, Uncategorized Tagged With: Diet, Eating Disorders, Emotional Disorders, Emotional Eating, Unhealthy Eating, Unhealthy Habits

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